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the need to value your time as a business owner

The need to value your time as a business owner

Let’s get one thing straight, this article is not going to talk about putting a dollar value on an hour of your time as the business owner, I could, but that’s not what this is about. This is about how you see and intrinsically put worth on your time as the owner, not your charge out rate.

These two things can be related, but I tend to find that business owners find the maths simple and the internalised value of themselves hard. It’s this internalised value where they can trip up. Where we can trip up.

How not valuing your time as a business owner can show up

I hand on heart admit to being one of these people. I’m a giver. In fact, I often give too much. I’m also working through a tonne of baggage that I need to unpack where I wasn’t valued and that became the story I live(d) by. So how does not valuing my time show up for me and other business owners I know:value your time business owner quote steve jobs
– discounting
– not raising prices
putting others first
I’m sure there are others I could list here and if you want to add to the list, please leave it in a comment at the bottom of the page.

At its core, not valuing our time ends up putting the brakes on ourselves and our businesses. This could end up giving us time, through breakdown or illness. It can conversely show up as us being too busy and potentially end up overwhelmed and burnt out. It can be a vicious cycle.

How can you start valuing your time in your business?

It would be really easy for me to say, “put in boundaries, raise your prices, and stop getting in your own way”. The thing is that I know that for some this might work, but there’s a really good chance that in time old habits will creep in and you can end up in a worse place.

As I sit here and think of the things that best help business owners start to value their time in their business, I can’t honestly say that any lasting fix is easy. They all take work. What I know is that eventually not doing them is more costly and damaging than denying their value.

At the crux of it, it comes down to why we don’t value our time and to a degree, ourselves, what we value, and what we do. To unpick that, business owners need to be willing to be vulnerable, honest, and objective WITH THEMSELVES. In the main, it means that the pain of doing this has to be more tolerable than the pain of continuing to undervalue their time.

But in the short term, things like:value your time business owner quote M Scott Peck
– time blocking
– behaving as if
– adjusting their time mindset
– behaving from core values
– reviewing goals and progress to date
crunching the financials, personal and business
can all help get business owners through the mire of the symptoms relating to them not valuing their time, until they can no longer tolerate them and the pain of addressing the root story is less than carrying on through the muck and living with the symptoms.

I know that sounds rough, cold, and somewhat confronting. I never admitted that doing this work would be easy. What I know is that eventually business owners stop putting bandages over the broken bits and have to look at the root of why things have gone wrong and do the work to address it. Myself included. Personally, it’s a layer thing. I’ve addressed the story about not being intrinsically of value and it’s now about how I move existing clients from a heavily discounted model to a valued model; at the moment I’m not and a lot of it comes down to fear of letting them down and not going back on my word. The work is ongoing but it’s worthwhile. You’ve got some tools there to get you through the rough bits and some ideas to help you in the long run. Stick with me, I’ve got you, and together we will get there. Reach out when you wobble and I’ll catch you.

  • February 18, 2021
3 ways you're killing your profitable business

3 unlikely ways to make your business more profitable

Many of my clients tell me that they want their business to be more profitable. They want to make more money. They want to see more money left at the end of the day. So we take some time to look at what they can do to improve the profitability of their business and there is always a common issue.


I don’t mean that they’re not working hard enough. In fact, many are working too hard for little to no reward. They also have accountants looking after their books, but the poor things are always working in the past and having to deal with what is been and done.

Many of them run their business like their own personal bank

I first came across this before I even ran my own business. I had friends who did and I was envious of how they were able to live their lives. They had the best of everything while I scrimped and saved to buy a few luxuries. Then their businesses went bankrupt.

Even though they had accountants supporting them, the business owners were treating every cent as their own and spending it (and then some).

Too often I see business owners relying on the prospect of better days to come, along with a flush business bank account (or overdraft), to justify to themselves that they can spend away.

While we toil away for the money the business earns, and technically every dollar of profit a sole trader makes is theirs, it sadly doesn’t make the business a personal bank.

Having been through taxation and financial statement audits, I am fully aware of how personal use of business funds is seen by regulators. While we may have worked hard for the dollar, sadly it’s not always ours to spend and the business (or authorities) may have earmarked for something else.

Not knowing what they need to earn to live the life they want and engineering their business to provide it.

Profitable business quote Peter DruckerFollowing on from running their business like a bank comes not knowing how much they need to earn to live. I’m not sure which feeds what but they often go hand in hand.

Look, running a personal budget is about as fun as watching paint dry or grass grow but that’s not what I’m leaning towards. This is quite literally how much money does it cost you to live the life you currently have, or the one you want, for one whole year and what does that mean you need to earn from the business (after expenses) to make this happen.

How do you do this? Go through your bills, statements, emails and add it all up. Then divide it by 12 for a monthly amount, by 26 for a fortnightly amount, or work out how many hours a week you want to work in a year and then divide it by that. Don’t forget to add some money into the budget for fun, emergencies, and savings.

The key is being honest and ruthless. Include the takeaway coffees and home-delivered meals. Include the haircuts, shoes, parties, birthdays, Christmas catering, and holidays away. Yes, you do have to be honest with the amount you spend on alcohol, cigarettes, and other vices.

If you’re not honest with how much you personally spend then you can’t expect an honest amount from your business or to make your way out of personal debt, using the business like a piggy bank, or becoming profitable.

Sabotaging their business activities so they aren’t profitable

I have to say that sabotaging the profitability of a business takes many forms. I find it heartbreaking to watch as a business coach. In the end, it comes down to fear and imposter syndrome – business owners are either afraid of success or failure, or they believe that they don’t deserve to be profitable.

These beliefs can come from a number of stories they play in their head. The fear of success can come from being told we would never be a success, that it’s bad, that it will somehow have a negative impact. The fear of failure can come from shame, being shamed, being in a highly competitive environment. Imposter Syndrome stems from what we believe others’ expectations are of us, being high achieving, holding ourselves to unrealistic standards, having been singled out as a tall poppy. These are just some of the most common stories I come across and it’s not conclusive.

I’ve known business owners who won’t open bills or bank statements hoping that they can avoid the reality of their failing business. I’ve known others who won’t post on social media, even though they have the skills because they are stymied by Imposter Syndrome and the fear of being called out. Others won’t send emails requesting payment or make calls to do the same for fear of upsetting the other person. Others refuse to send proposals for fear of rejection. Added to the previous two behaviours, plus countless others, there are many ways that business owners sabotage the ability of their business to be profitable or remain profitable.

How to solve these business profitability problems

profitable business quote Zig ZiglarThere are a few things I do, over and above what I’ve already described, to help solve these profitability problems.

In the first instance, I have to get the business owner to take an honest look at what is happening financially, in their business and personally, so we can look at where we can minimise the loss and make the business more profitable.

I then have them look at their behaviour, or lack, to see what it is that they are doing that is impacting on the profitability of the business.

If their story around fear or imposter syndrome is an issue, then we need to address the story.

I have them look at their personal and business drivers & look at where they are not behaving in alignment to achieving them and how they can use an understanding of what drives them, and ultimately their business, to become and remain profitable.

Finally, and if they are ongoing clients, it’s my job to hold them accountable, remind them of the work they’ve done so far, the difference it has made, and encourage them to progress and make their business more profitable. I’m also there to help them when they slip and stumble, and they mostly do, so that they don’t add to any story and can progress with the business they always knew was possible.

I hope this article has helped with some sneaky ways I see business owners kill a profitable business. Please contact me if you want to discuss anything further.

  • February 9, 2021
3 things to remember so you don’t take things personally

3 things to remember so you don’t take things personally

They hate me, they’re going to sack me, they’re ghosting me, but don’t take things personally. Right? The minute someone goes quiet, wants to change something, or perhaps it’s just one of those days you just seem to take it all personally. Like it’s your fault, they hate you, you’ve done something wrong, you name it. Can we chat for a minute about it? Because I’ve recently realised something.

We each get to choose what, if, and to what degree we take things personally.

(Read that last sentence again)

I realised this after a tough couple of days. A client didn’t keep a meeting, another was talking about working with a different coach (on different topics), and my mind defaulted to “they hate me, they’re going to dump me, they aren’t going to pay their bills”. You name it I went there, and fast!

don't take things personally quote

But as I was driving in my car, one of my favourite thinking chairs, I realised that I was listening to an old story I play in my head. It’s one that feeds my Imposter Syndrome and one that I am working on rewriting. The one that started as a child. The one that says that I’m not good enough and not deserving of the attention others give me. And then I realised that I was making it all about me when what my clients were, rightfully, doing was all about them. I was taking it personally.

This is where I could begin to flip the story. I could also take the action that I needed for my business. I asked for the overdue payment, which was promptly paid. Paying a bill isn’t personal, it’s business; so is asking for payment.

I flipped the story on not being good enough by looking at the reviews I’ve had. It’s a good reminder that we do do good work and we are valued.

I also reminded myself, in a rather frank tone, that this was not about me and was never meant to be. That meant that the old story wasn’t needed, necessary, or even valid.

What I did have to take personally was how I reacted and how quickly I bounced back (fast thankfully). While being self-aware and mindful of the stories helps, I have to admit that it doesn’t always make things easier. I still have to do the work.

So please remember, if you see something online, hear something, or if you hear nothing at all and that causes you to take thingsstop taking things personally quote personally:
-stop and listen to the story you’re telling yourself and consider if this is really about you or are you relying on some old story that’s not even relevant to the situation
– get off self and get on with your business
– you get to decide what, if, and to what degree you take things personally.

Then, you might just surprise yourself with how fast things turn around.

P.S. I’d love to know how you go with these three tips about not taking things personally.
P.P.S. If you need help with flipping your story, please reach out or book a chat with me.


  • February 1, 2021
plan scheduling social media content for a summer

What I learnt from content planning and scheduling a Summer of social media content

There are four lessons I learnt from planning and scheduling out two months’ worth of social media content so that I could chill with my family: know what you’ve got, know what they want, and physically map it. I also learnt that it’s healthy for me to do this and my audience is happy for me to do it (and no my reach didn’t suffer).

In November 2020, like many, I was exhausted and I was looking forward to having the family home for Summer holidays. But that posed a problem, what to post in my Facebook Group. I wasn’t too worried about my social media as that had been planned, scheduled, and automated. My Private Facebook Group, however, ran off of the blog posts I wrote each week. If I was going to have a decent break, I needed that to include blogging. What to do?

Know what content you’ve got

I knew that I had A LOT of blog posts to draw on. I’m fortunate that I have blogged weekly for at least 6 years now. While some of the posts are no longer relevant, mostly due to defunct software I blog on, the majority are still relevant.

I don’t have an index of my blog posts, but I do have them all in one spot, all on my website, and all searchable.

I did learn the value of having a catalogue of assets and I developed this over the break so that I know where all my freebies and products are. It certainly is a time saver and it was eye-opening just how many things (and how many landing pages) I had produced (and forgotten).

Know what content your audience wants to see

content planning scheduling quote Brian TracyIf you’ve been here a while, you’ll know where I’m headed. For those new to my blog, I’m not one for telling my audience what they want based on what I need to sell. I’m also a big believer in research, science, and psychology and thankfully marketing is finally realising the role of these in their activity.

I’ve been running and advocating for human-centred (neuromarketing) marketing for many years now. In fact, I applied what I learnt with motivating staff to motivating an audience and discovered a few years ago that this is precisely how the big end of town make their big bucks.

The key to having engaging social media content is to understand and appeal to the self-image of your audience. I’ve gone on and broken that into five parts, their: fears, needs, beliefs, values, and goals. Understand these and apply it to how what you do/sell and you’ve got yourself some humming content.

When I scheduled my content, I knew it had all been written with their self-image at the centre. When I chose what to schedule, I looked at what issues they would confront in their business over the Summer break and I used this to help focus my content.

Bonus: My Facebook Group runs with set topic days. This helps with consistency and is based around the two main topics my members want: tech tips & psychology tips. Set days can help social media scheduling and creates structure (which people like).

Physically map your content plan

Old me is groaning, I used to be the kind of person who flew by the seat of her pants, loved the flexibility, and loathed the time when I needed to write/post/schedule content and nothing came to mind.

This Summer I wanted more time with my family and I also knew that I had a lot of client work to finish before I could chill out. That meant that my content had to be scheduled in any few spare moments I had. That meant I had to find and write out exactly which blog I was sharing on each day for the 8 weeks. Yes, I post 7 days a week in my group. Yes, that meant choosing 56 relevant blog posts for my audience. Yes, it took a while. Yes, I did it bit by bit. Yes, I got into a groove by the end.

I schedule my group posts in the group, my other socials are all done in external scheduling software, and this meant that I either needed to use pen and paper or a spreadsheet to map it all out. As I’m a bullet journal gal, one page of my journal became my content plan.

Bonus: A spreadsheet is a lot easier for this stuff as you can cut and paste links into the content plan and then use them for scheduling.

I filled out an 8×7 dated grid with content, leaving space for seasons greetings, promotions of products and events I was running at the time, and relevant daily hashtags. I also created a hashtag for the #summerseries so that members would know what was live and what was scheduled content.

P.S. I also use a 12-month content plan to map all of my content.

Engage with your scheduled content so your audience knows you still care

Even though I was on holidays, I was still active in my group. In fact, I told my group that I was going to remain active even though all the content they were going to see in the next two months was scheduled.

Bonus: People need to know that they’re important, they want to be part of something bigger, and especially in a service business they want to know you care and are available.

It also meant that I posted new and relevant content as it appeared in my newsfeed. I wanted my members to know that although I was on holidays, I was still watching out for their best interests and keeping them informed. During the holidays, Facebook announced they were trading likes for follows and the whole Google/News/Australian Government fight got tense and I made sure my members knew about these things.

content planning scheduling quote dale carnegieI made sure that I responded to posts and comments like I normally do. My members knew I was on holidays and that meant that every comment I made was time away from family making them feel valued – no one expected me to comment although I told them I’d remain active. It also meant that my group was active in their feed because we were feeding the Facebook algorithm with engagement. That’s always a good thing. I am a firm believer that every response improves the know, like, and trust with members (even those who stalk) and that means they are more likely to buy from me and they definitely advocate for me.


I’m glad I scheduled out my group content. It meant that I revisited my own content. It reinforced that I do help in a lot of different ways. I also learnt the power of indexing the resources I give away and sell.

The break from creating content meant that I was able to look back through my client notes and find those new content nuggets I can develop. I was also able to see where there were holes in my overall content focus.

I will definitely be planning and scheduling out my content next Summer as it really gave me the flexibility I aim for in running my own business.

  • January 28, 2021
Skills small business owners need to be driven and achieve goals.

Skills small businesses need to achieve the goal of being driven

When I first talk to my clients, one of the things I ask are their goals. The one thing they say their goal is being driven. So I wanted to explore this a little more and look at what it means to be driven as a small business owner.

Being Driven and Achieving

bc forbes quote being driven and drive

This is probably what most of us think being driven is all about – getting things done. If only just being driven actually achieved anything! The beauty of it is that being driven does allow us to achieve things, if only we actually do the right things.

The most driven people I know understand exactly what it is they are trying to achieve. They are very clear. It doesn’t mean that they are rigid, because they also understand that there can be outside influences impacting on their achievements.

Driven people plan how and what they will do to achieve their goals. Some are prescriptive to a point and others prefer more loose planning, but that doesn’t mean laissez-faire. They know that the best way to achieve something is to plan for it and plan it out.

Once planned, driven small business owners will ensure that every step they take brings them closer to achieving. They also measure and manage these activities so that they know just how much time it has taken and if that time would be better spent elsewhere.

Finally, should it take too much time, or not be a worthwhile use of their time, driven business owners will outsource like a MOFO. They know what their time is worth and how much they will pay to outsource that time. It’s about managing their resource of time.

Driven Businesses are Owned by Self-motivated Business Owners

The next most common belief about being driven is that you need to be self-motivated. Well yes & no. You need to know where you’re going but you can do this by outsourcing motivating yourself to get you going – you still do need a degree of your own get up and go. I tend to find that with my clients who need me to either give them encouragement through to a kick up the bum, that over time they need me less and less. It’s because I ensure that they have the following skills.

Self-motivated and driven small business owners will know what drives them. This is key to motivating anyone. You need to know what gets them going, what keeps them going, and what their Achilles Heel is. Understanding these means that you have a toolbox of means to get people doing what you (or they) need them to do.

When you know how to get them working then you need to know how they best work. This could be location, time of day, environment, learning style. Understanding how you best work will help you get in the flow and keep on keeping on.

Distractions and procrastinating are probably my arch nemeses. Hello Facebook scroll! Driven small business owners understand that sometimes they get distracted and put in a number of techniques and tools to avoid them. Some don’t have certain apps on their phones, or keep to a daily time schedule. Some use pomodoro or time batching to keep them on track. The one thing they know is that they need to be accountable to themselves for their time. They also know that they need downtime and that is programmed in too.

Self-motivation is not beating yourself up to achieve. It requires us to actually ignore the negative self-talk and keep ourselves in the right frame of mind. When someone is trying to motivate us to work, them berating and belittling us doesn’t make us want to work – this is the same for our self-talk.

Overcoming Obstacles while Remaining Driven

Simon Sinek quote about being drivenDriven people understand that obstacles will occur but they also know that they have to have the skills to overcome them and continue on their way.

The first thing to overcoming obstacles is to actually be open-minded to them. I know that on first glance obstacles have seemed insurmountable and with some clever consideration actually don’t end up being too bad and sometimes are actually a blessing in disguise. Being open-minded about the obstacle is one thing but driven business owners are also open-minded about the solution. They do not believe that “we’ve always done it this way” is actually a good solution, in fact they can see it as an excuse or an obstacle in itself.

Driven business owners are forward-thinking. They want to see the opportunities in situations and will look at obstacles in the same way.

Again, obstacles can often bring a litany of negative self-talk about us always being a failure, unlucky, or the like. Driven businesses don’t buy into this negative talk and have often done a lot of self-work to subdue that noise once and for all.

I have to be honest, all of my clients are driven. They want to succeed. They just need a bit of guidance, especially with negative self-talk, to get them started. And boy how I love watching them succeed from there!

  • November 25, 2020
courage core small business skill

How courage is a core skill for small business

I have courage as a core value but it’s also a core skill for my small business. I want to let you in on how I use it to help me and my business.

Courage and conflict

How does Courage in conflict or confrontations help me?  It helps me & my business in a few ways:
– stand my ground
– stand up and say my piece
– hold my boundaries

Ok, so not always full on ding-dong arguments, but I do use courage when approaching difficult situations. You see, I’m a recovering people-pleaser, learning to install and maintain boundaries in my personal and business life. I don’t like letting people down and I hate upsetting them. In the past that has meant that I would concede and then feel used (because I was).

It allows me to hold firm with difficult customers. It gives me the strength to keep time for my family. I draw on it when managing contractors (or staff when I had them). It also allows me to knock back opportunities that may appealing but actually don’t support or move my business forward.

Courage in conflict gives me the ability to generally avoid conflict and to often achieve better outcomes than had the conflict occurred.

Courage and leadership

courage as a small business core skill


I’ve held a few leadership roles from taking over as Senior Bank Teller after a robbery through to managing a Quality Assurance Team who were close to retirement and had a two-year backlog of work. I have to admit that the mentor roles I’ve had through the years have even required courage.

Now that I run my own small business, I do need to remind myself that I do still have these skills. I tend to forget that I built this muscle and I just need to wake it up – that takes courage. A few years ago I realized just how different I was in the Social Media Marketing space and I had to be ok with that. I’ve now applied that to my role as coach and mentor – and I’m ok with that.

When it comes to leadership, I’ve had to develop the courage to:
– Stand up
– Listen
– Speak up
– Be different

This has really made me draw on my own self-confidence, which honestly can be shaky at times. I’ve had to draw on my Imposter Syndrome toolkit to make sure I’ve got the right focus.

The other thing I’ve had to be ok with is actually being a leader and mentor. While I do formalize the role in my client work and work with Flinders University, it’s when others see me as a leader but I do not directly work with them. When the person infront of me at a conference tells me that they travelled interstate to hear me speak. When people come up to me and say that I inspire them. This is when Imposter Syndrome hits me hard as I know I’m only being true to myself. This is when I need that courage in my role as a leader the most and to understand that I don’t get to determine if others see me as a leader, that is a role I am given and I need to be ok with that too.

courage small business quoteCourage and forward thinking

I’ve recently written about forward thinking and how it helps small business, the thing is that to be a forward thinker you need to have courage. You need to act from a place of courage. You need to trust in that courage.

I can tell you that being out there on your own makes you draw on the courage you have. It will test the courage you have. And when you succeed you will have that courage renewed and reinforced. And that makes it worthwhile.

Courage and growth

One of the unexpected benefits of acting from a place of courage is how you grow, personally and as a business. You will discover things you never realized about yourself. You will also become more self-assured. This has been the best thing for me.

But how can courage help you and your small business grow?
financial growth, including
– courage to promote your business
– emotional growth, including
– overcoming obstacles, fears, challenges
– learning/experiencing new things

I’m curious to know how you will use courage in your business now? Let me know in an email or leave a comment below.

  • November 19, 2020
forward thinking and small business

Forward thinking and small business

So most of us in small business like to be ahead of the game. When I stopped to think about it I was reminded of an electrician client who has a strong business belief in being forward thinking. That made me look into what it means to be forward thinking, how it’s shown, and what it means for a small business to be forward thinking.

What’s the meaning of ‘forward thinking’?

Oxford define forward thinking as:
favouring innovation and development; progressive.

I believe that most of my clients prefer progressive, with the exception of the electrician who also favours innovation.

I think it’s interesting that they include ‘favours’, as in they don’t follow innovation or progression at all costs, more that given a choice that is what they will choose and within reason. It also means that they don’t exclude lessons from the past or reviewing what has been.

How do you demonstrate ‘forward thinking’?

orward thinking quote albert einsteinForward thinkers are strategic and have a great idea of the future of the business. They may not have it pinned to specifics, but they’re certainly not dwelling on why they’re not there. In fact, because they are forward thinking they will often have many options and pathways to achieve that future.

While you may think of forward thinkers as ‘yes’ people and they often are. They are clear on how that yes or no gets them closer to their goal. Their thinking is open to the possibilities and consequences. They learn from the past and apply that to the now to achieve the future.

Competition is the enemy of forward thinking and copying others is not thinking; both of these close the mind to opportunity. Forward thinkers see others in their field as collaborators and understand that the marketplace allows for competitors to thrive alongside each other because consumers differ.

Forward thinking requires small businesses to be flexible but to also analyse opportunities and behaviours. Small business owners who are forward thinking also realise that they are responsible for their part in this. To demonstrate forward thinking, small business owners need to be able to critically analyse themselves and not just their business or the environment.

How does being ‘forward thinking’ benefit small businesses?

The big thing we dream of with being a forward thinking small business is making it big and being the next Uber or Apple. The good news is that there are more quickly tangible benefits than hitting it big.

I learnt a long time ago to be ok with being in a blue ocean in my small business. That self-assurance was a big win for me. It also taught me to become very clear on who I am, what my business and I stand for and being able to articulate that. All while still being ok with being alone.

Being forward thinking opens many doors you never knew existed. It also requires you to knock on the doors you want to open. For some of us it requires us to find courage in corners we never knew existed and for others to be prepared for any opportunity. Either which way we win at some level.

Forward thinking allows us to see things as they are rather than as others wish we would see them. We think critically. This unfortunately can include ourselves. Forward thinking leads to great personal growth.

How to become a forward thinker?

forward thinking quote brene brownSo if you wish to be a forward thinker or improve your forward thinking skills for yourself and your small business, here are some of the skills I have gathered will help in that journey:

  • Understand your ‘why’
  • Learn widely and listen, including people outside your field
  • Make it a value of your small business
  • Make time, even take time away to dedicate to it.
  • Have courage
  • Be ok with being alone in the marketplace
  • Embody & embrace creative thinking and creativity
  • Think critically and from outside your experience, belief and value set

A final word

In 2015 I joined a live streaming community called Blab, on it I discovered Mark Proffitt. Mark took 25 years of research and his work with Apple to develop his approach to innovation called Predictive Innovation. I had the honour of a one-on-one session with Mark, using his system to help me gain clarity on my business. I know how empowering and powerful it is.

If you’re interested in learning his approach to innovation and being forward thinking, I encourage you to check out his book and other resources.

If you need help defining your value, understanding your why, being ok in your blue ocean, or any other item I’ve mentioned here please set up a time to chat with me through my online booking system.

  • November 12, 2020
Feel secure in your small business

Feel secure as a small business owner

One of the things my coaching clients need is to feel secure. When I did a quick search, what came up was the need for emotional safety – it’s more than that. So I’ve gone back to my favourite, Maslow, and his hierarchy of needs to look at allows us to feel secure and how it applies to running a small business.

Psychological purists would say that security only comes in at the second level of safety. I would say that they are taking a narrow definition of security and not applying how the person feels to each level and that’s what I will do.

Physiological Needs & feeling secure

Our physiological needs come back to shelter, food, water, sleep – the basics for survival. As a business owner, we need to feel secure that we can provide these things for our business, ourselves, and/or our family. Small business live, breathe & sleep their business. It’s often the sleep part we neglect; either through stress or through long hours

Alternatively, we can look at these as the basic costs (needs) of survival. In a business that can be wages, a means of securing new business, licenses, insurances, plant, equipment, and materials.

These, and whatever you and your business determine, are the most basic needs. Maslow stated that to feel ‘security’ we must have these met. In business, I meet many small business owners who worry where the money is coming from and as such do not feel secure in their business’ ability to meet their personal or business needs.  In turn, this has them questioning their ability, worth and the worth of their business. Sometimes, they’re right in questioning these things. Sometimes it’s their own self-doubt, self-confidence, or imposter syndrome kicking in and leaving them questioning their abilities and by default their ability to provide the security they need.

Safety, small business, and feeling secure

Maslow saw safety and security as things such as:Feeling secure in small business quote
– physical and emotional safety
– health
– employment
– law & order
– stability.

As a small business owner, I have to say that my business has had a negative impact on each of these; yes, even law & order. The nature of owning and running a small business means that there can be little to no security in these at times.

While we can insure our health and our income, there are rules and the prospect that we may not be able to operate our business as once before. That’s if it’s our own health that fails. Most of us run a small business for the flexibility it offers our family, so what happens when it’s the health of our family that impacts on our business? The health of our staff?

If we consider employment more as a wage or income, then this can be an issue for some business owners. I know that when I ran my first business, I didn’t draw a wage at all. Then there’s having a stable income, or a reserve of money to draw on in lean business times. There’s also having the income to secure staff wages.

Law and order can be tricky. We need to navigate our legal obligations in the course of carrying out our business, having staff, running an online business. There’s a lot to get our heads around.

Stability, hmmm. What to say? I think it’s something we strive for, have for periods of time, and then strive for again. The processes and procedures we put in place provide a framework to give us stability. By it’s nature, running a business means that we become ok with the idea of instability. This can lead to an internal fight of our inherent need for stability and our reality of running a small business.

Love, belonging & being a small business owner

If I’m honest, this is where I struggle (thanks imposter syndrome) as I don’t always feel like I belong. I know I have peers in my industry but I never feel like I measure up. Humans, as social creatures, need to feel like we belong. We need our tribe of like people around us. The irony is that we compare so much that we (ok, I) can alienate ourselves and remove the thing we so deeply desire. (Not to mention the adage of safety in numbers)

Thankfully I have two tools I use when I have clients who feel like they don’t belong. One is a bit of a trade secret (it’s powerful and needs to be individualized, no seriously) and the other you can get in this free download. These two tools help us discover our belonging and from there we can feel secure in our place.

The key to it is leaving comparison at the door. There is no place for it because we just don’t know the reality of who we’re comparing ourselves to. And that’s where I find security.

It’s not just about being ok with me, it’s about being ok with not having a whole heap of people around me; it’s about having the right people.

Esteem & felling secureFeeling secure quote by Henry Ford

Maslow included the following in his need for esteem:
– achievement, and
– acceptance by others.

I look at it as feeling secure with ourselves and our place in ‘the world’. I believe that in order to feel secure here, we need to have the courage to be objective with ourselves and to work on making ourselves secure in this place.

Self-actualisation & small business ownership

This is the ‘holy grail’ of Maslow motivation. Being all we can be. Some might say ‘living our best life’.

When I looked it up the other words used were morality & creativity. I think feeling secure in our morality & creativity would certainly fit; I’m hoping that being moral or creative aren’t only the domain of those of us who are self-actualised. (and I don’t think they are)

Transcendence: the ‘bonus’ level

I had never known of this level until now. Self-actualisation was always the pinnacle & it seems that I was not alone in not knowing about transcendence and self-transcendence.

At its core we achieve transcendence when we are helping others achieve self-actualisation, when we are focused on others and higher goals which are not self-serving.

Perhaps it’s the company I keep, or the work I do, but the most rewarding thing for me is seeing business owners overcome their own fears that hold them back. Many of my clients do their work because of the result it has for their clients. When I teach others how to overcome fear, I teach them to “get off self” and focus on others. I think we’re all pretty secure in our desire to do this, though I know at times I find it hard accepting the recognition.

The other thing I read about this level is being in a “state of flow”. I’ve read what Martin Selgiman, Jonathan Haidt, and Chip Conley write about flow and how they interpret it in reference to its founder’s, Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, thoughts. I have to say that feeling secure being in flow can be difficult. It can be tricky to achieve and readily lost. It takes the previous self work that Maslow outlines to be able to achieve and maintain flow.

Summary: the need to feel secure in small business

So what can I say in summary of our need as small business owners to feel secure?

We are not necessarily in the enviable position many of our friends and family believe or think they see. The laptop lifestyle is not overly secure. That said, there are ways that we can sure it up:

  • Clear processes and procedures
  • Clear boundaries
  • Prioritising our own pay and cash reserve
  • Continue marketing in the busy periods to ensure consistent leads
  • Have the right circle around you, listen and lean on them
  • Learn to be ok with you and do the work needed to get you there (it stops comparisonitis too)
  • Follow your passion to a greater purpose and get into the groove/flow.

Please know that I am here for you and that I do offer one off sessions to help you find security, you, and flow.

  • November 4, 2020
Australian social media usage

Australian social media usage in 2020

It’s been a while since I reported on Australian social media usage. It has been due to a number of things, but I thought it was time to get back into it as I am now doing a lot of public speaking on consumer behaviour on social media.

The following is an extract from the 2020 Yellow Social Media Report. I have taken their figures and pulled it into the most relevant numbers for business owners and added some useful insights and commentary.

Overview of general Australian social media usage

84% of Australians use Facebook and 48 % use Instagram. Across the ages only those aged 18-29 used Instagram more.

So if that’s what they use, how do they use social media. Or when? Most of us use social media most in the evening, except 18-29 year olds who prefer the morning. Most of us use social media in the lounge and to catch up with friends an family. Here’s more of a break down of Australia’s social media habits:

  • 64% of us use social media while watching TV
  • 58% while watching a movie
  • 50% while watching the news
  • 32% of us feel excited if our posts receive more likes than normal (it’s not limited to page owners)
  • 13 % of women and 7% of men use social media in the bathroom (I don’t know if that includes toilet)

While we talk about the news, only 14% of us use social media as a news source and 35% of us reacted to a post only to find out it was fake. Incidentally, only 14% of us trust what our friends post online.

What about Australians as consumers and social media use?

bill gates quote social media usage82% of consumers followed brands on social media. 68% read online reviews or blogs for opinions and they will read an average of 7 reviews before making a purchase. Of those who read reviews 61% will go on to make a purchase and 80% of those purchases are made online. That said, only 7% will actually write an online review.

When it comes to making a first-time purchase from a brand, 38% of women and 28% of men will stalk a company’s social media before they make the purchase.

Consumers said they were more likely to trust a brand if:
– they interacted positively with their audience (51%)
– the content was relevant & engaging (54%)
– their content was regularly updated (53%)
– 34% women & 36% of men consider page liker numbers

Conversely, 63% of Aussies said they were less likely to use a brand if they were using a social influencer or celebrity in their marketing – except females aged 18-29.

Speaking of marketing and advertising, seems like Aussies really don’t care unless it’s an influencer and then it’s a clear ‘no’ from us:

  • 53% of us ignore social media ads from brands we don’t follow (sorry targeted ads)
  • 48% take no notice of ads at all
  • 40% don’t like ads from brands they follow (I’m not a fan of seeing ads because I like a page)

So what do Australian consumers want on social media?

I’ve already mentioned that we want to be positively interacted with, see relevant & engaging content, and regularly updated social media channels, but it seems that this isn’t enough.

When it comes to the brands we follow, Australians also want the following in their social media:

  • 62% want discounts
  • 47% want giveaways
  • 41% want product information
  • 32% want tips

So it’s good news for business owners, we don’t all want something for nothing, and we do want to hear that you know your stuff and want us to get the most from it.

How Australian businesses use social media

So we now have a good idea on Australian social media usage, what about us business owners who use social media to market our business?

walt disney quote and australian social media usageIt’s not surprising that 79% of us manage our social media internally, what is a surprise is that 71% DIY our social media as the business owner. So if you DIY your social media, you’re not alone.

37% of Australian businesses run social media ad campaigns, 83% of those on Facebook. Another 25% of Australian businesses don’t allocate any money to social media marketing.

62% of businesses engage with their client feedback on social media, this did surprise me when 71% of us DIY and 51% of consumers say that they like pages that interact with them. I was hoping that this would be a higher percentage and it makes me wonder what is holding business owners back from engaging with their audience on social media.

Only 22% of business owners were frustrated by negative reviews and trolling and 19% of us said that nothing really bothered us about being on social media. So if we’re almost as concerned about trolls as we are not bothered by anything, what stops us?

What I do know is that 63% of business owners believe that their social media sales will increase over the next 12 months and most estimate an average ROI of 13% from their social media.

When you look at what consumers do and business owners do on social media, it makes sense to have some sort of consistent online presence for your business – even if you DIY.

Changes in Australian social media usage

I first reported on Australian social media usage in 2016 and in 2017 I used the then Sensis, now Yellow, report for the first summary. I thought it would be interesting to look at a few changes.

What has changed with our social media use in the past 3 years:

  • Instagram has surpassed Facebook as the most used platform for 18-29 year olds
  • 18-29 year olds are now using social media more in the morning than before, or any other time
  • More of us follow brands, up from 18% in 2017
  • We’re more likely to make a purchase after doing research on social media, up from 52%
  • We’re more likely to make that purchase online, up from 61%
  • More of us want discounts via social media, up from 54%
  • More of us want product information, up from 30%
  • The average Australian reads 7 reviews, up from 5

Interestingly, there was little change in our desire for online giveaways, 47% now vs 48% then.

  • October 29, 2020
3 ways to stop your fear of disappointing others

3 key ways to stop the fear of disappointing others

Shannon had been in business a while. In fact, a good 10 years. They were quite successful. Not as much as their parents would like but enough to keep their family and go away on holidays through the year. Shannon is dedicated to the industry. They often give away advice to clients free of charge. Shannon hates to see anyone done wrong.

The problem is, Shannon hates disappointing people, in fact they’re afraid of disappointing others. They hate letting their family down. They hate it when their clients aren’t 100 percent happy with what they’ve done; even though they overdeliver and undercharge as a matter of course.

Shannon is not their real name and I know Shannon as both male and female. Traditionally people pleasers, although they may not think they are, Shannons are kind hearted and often taken advantage of. Unfortunately, this causes them to feel used, undervalued, warn out, and at its worst, a business failure.

What normally happens next is that Shannon retreats; from friends, family, and their business. They wonder why they bother and doubt becomes their constant companion. Getting out of this spiral can be difficult. They can’t fake it out, because honestly they’ve generally faked their way in (more on this in a minute).

So how does Shannon, or anyone, who fears disappointing others actually get stuff done when in the depths of this doubt darkness?

There are three key things we can do when we are afraid of disappointing people. The good thing is that it really doesn’t matter who the people are or what the situation is, we are all people and these three things will help.

Perceived expectations

fear of disappointing others quote Alain de BottonWhen we are afraid of disappointing people, we rely on what we believe the other person’s expectations are. (incidentally this is one of the core behaviours of imposter syndrome).

Perhaps we don’t want to disappoint our family. We’re worried what they’d say or how they’d react. While some of this can be based on past behaviour, it’s still never 100% guaranteed. We’re afraid that they will be disappointed and that our actions will be the cause.

The thing is, do we ever truly know how other people will behave? Our behaviour changes with how tired or hungry we are, how well we slept, if we’d been in an argument earlier that day, if we had a good morning, if we’re feeling sick, if we actually want to be there, if we feel comfortable. There are many biological and situational factors that impact how we react to situations. We can not know all of these and how they will impact on how we expect a person will react vs how they actually will.

However, Shannon adjusts their behaviour on the off chance that they might disappoint the person because they believe that they will somehow upset them by not meeting what Shannon believes to be the expectations of that person. Shannon tiptoes and adjusts to meet something that quite probably doesn’t exist and is all made up in their mind.

What Shannon could do is to actually ask what is expected, they know what is expected by their clients as that’s what they are being paid to deliver. If they deliver that, the customer is happy, anything more is a bonus, and overdelivering to avoid disappointment isn’t necessary and can create unease on both parties.

Boundaries counter the fear of disappointing others

When we are unsure of what people are expecting we need to either fill that knowledge gap or install our own knowledge. And we need to be ok with that.

People who overdeliver and feel used often lack boundaries and the ability to say no to even themselves. This inability to know when enough is enough leads to doing too much and burning out.

Shannon isn’t always that great at saying no. They will do whatever possible to keep their kids, extended family, and clients happy. If a client complains they will instantly cut their prices, thereby showing their client that their time, expertise, and overall worth are not worthwhile and they don’t value them. The vast majority of the time, that client does not return or recommend Shannon. Why? Not because of the service they received but because they got what they wanted and at a lower price.

Because Shannon is a people pleaser and is afraid of disappointing, they would rather undervalue themselves, put themselves second, and teach others that they can do the same.

When Shannon looks to put boundaries in place, they worry that people will not like it, that they will lose customers (and money), and that this will all negatively impact on their business leading to them disappointing their family.

However, if Shannon valued their time/service/knowledge/expertise, they wouldn’t be discounting or even entering into that conversation with their clients. The cycle would stop right there.

Boundaries come from understanding our core values, living in alignment with them and rewriting the stories that lead us to people pleasing. Doing this core work to come back to our core of who we are makes setting boundaries a lot easier.

Listening to the right people

fear of disappointing others quote Rosa ParksPerhaps Shannon listens to their Dad who is an accountant, or their Uncle who runs an unrelated business, or their spouse who has little or nothing to do with their business, or their friend who has their best intentions at heart but really doesn’t know all the things that go on behind the scenes. All of these people not only influence what Shannon does but also what they believe they should be doing. Because all of these people mean so much, on a personal level, to Shannon they fear disappointing them.

Now I’m not saying that Shannon needs to go and find an expert, coach, or whatever. What I am suggesting is that they look at the source. Dad the accountant will be offering ‘advice’ from their perspective on what Shannon should do in their business because it’s their child, whereas an independent accountant may offer slightly different advice or that Shannon may take the advice differently from an independent person.

What works for one person in one particular situation may not in another. What’s good for me may not necessarily be good for you.

We all come into a situation with our own particular drivers and that influences what we say and how we interpret what is said. That does not mean that Shannon should surround themselves with “yes men”, but they should realise the source and if that source has a particular point of view or vested interest.

When Shannon puts in boundaries, understands where these people are coming from, and recognises that they may have made an error in their perceived expectations then they will understand that they have the power to control not just themselves but also situations and how they respond. Shannon understands that while they had a fear of disappointing people that:
– it may not have happened in the first place
– they are not responsible for the happiness of others
– they are allowed to be happy
– they can do what is best for themselves
– there are people out there who do have their best interest at heart and they belong in their company.

Side note: I am learning that the fear of disappointing people can be linked to people pleasing and the need to belong. We all deserve to belong. We all need people to create a sense of belonging. It should not occur at our expense.

  • October 22, 2020